When you look in the mirror what do you see?

Sheryl Andrews Founder and Extreme Listening Facilitator

At Step by Step Listening we are actively helping our clients hear their own thoughts, helping them to understand themself which in turn can help them make decisions that feels right for them.

Being human many of our decisions are influenced by others opinions and thoughts. The only problem is, that sometimes this information takes us off track or steers us away from what instinctively we know to be right for us, right now.


How often in your life have you made a decision that just didn’t feel right?

Do you know the kind I mean, when every bone in your body is saying that something is just not quite right, but because someone else or society or parents or children or significant other have implied something your own confidence in the information is blurred. Then you lose sight of why and you are just left with this niggle, a doubt that something just does not quite add up. We spend time with our clients effectively adding up the niggles until they can see the logic to them and understand where they came from. sometimes they discover that the decision is the right one, they simply had to remind them of the steps they took to get there and other times it is not right for them but it might be right for someone else.

That moment when they realise what is happening and why has been called everything from:

  • Light bulb moments
  • Eureka moment
  • ah ha moments

I have at times quite literally watched the weight lift off their shoulders, dissipate into thin air leaving them with new-found clarity and focus, to do what is right for them right now.

The challenge comes when what is right for you is not right for someone who affects either your happiness (say a teenager or a partner) or perhaps someone who affects your success (say staff or your boss)

There is the challenge and that is why we do what we do, we hold the mirror up for you to have a really good look at yourself, and then we get you to have a look in the mirror to see it from the perspective of others. Cool eh!!

Lynda Nel our Social Media Admin Partner discovered the funny video below which sparked off the inspiration for today’s blog. As I watched this I am thinking to myself. These people absolutely know they can’t see themselves and the fact the other person says they can. There is instant bafflement and doubt. Now in this case some doubted the mirror. You will notice the gentlemen was more matter a fact about it.

How do you respond when things don’t seem right?

Are you confident enough to say weird mirror, it is not right or do you take your glasses off and start to doubt your own vision?

You never know someone may simply be telling you what they see from their perspective and although that view-point is valid, it does not necessarily make it right for you.

Enjoy this video

Thank you for Listening

Sheryl Andrews

Struggling with feeling settled about any decisions you have to make or have made then call us now for a FREE 30 mins chat to see if our process could benefit you.


About Step by Step Listening

I am the founder of Step by Step Listening and we started as a company that eradicated fear of failure and guilt for mums, we coached mums and daughters, we then worked with sole trader and small business owners and over the years we developed a unique ability to help people create the family or business they desire by being able to tap into the resource of being able to sell ideas/prodcuts/visions/services in a way that feels right and gets results. For some they are learning to sell and idea to themselves perhaps a dream or an ambition they have had for years, for others it could be selling responsibility and independence to a teenager or perhaps selling a vision or a change of structure to a team. What ever it is we use unique a unique facilitation and group process to help you discover when you are selling in a way that feels right that's like what?
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