Face your fears? Step by Step Listening’s team member Allison shares with us what happened when she did just that …
When starting up my business, one of the best pieces of advice I got was from a lady called Pam Slim who coaches people on how to move away from the corporate world and into their own business at http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/.
Pam said that before you can perform at your best in your business, one of the things you have to do is face your fears. For it is only once we have faced our fears that we can truly become worry free. And it is only when we are free from worry, that we can begin to perform at our best.
Facing your fears means digging deep to pull out all your worries, educating yourself and drawing up plans to address those fears, then putting a plan in place to manage your inner critic, that little voice that tells you all the time you might just not be good enough, the one that feeds on fear.
There are many ways to face your fears but one of the best ways is to play the ‘worst case scenario’ game.
Sit down with a large piece of paper and write down worst case scenario eg I’ll run out of money and end up living on the streets in a cardboard box.
Then do two things.
Firstly, how would you cope if that did actually happen and what could you do to improve your situation. Perhaps stay with a friend for a while or talk to your local council about accommodation. And actually do those things, ask your friend if this happened would they put you up, talk to your local council about what their criteria is for renting out properties.
Secondly, consider all the different options that would be open to you just before that final step happened. Perhaps, borrow money or talk to your mortgage provider.
Then repeat that for each step of the ‘worst case scenario’ journey – how would you cope with each step.
You will find that as you face your fears ie get them all out on the paper and REALLY understand the full implications of disaster striking, they begin to lift and you become free to move forward with your dreams and goals.
And I’d like to finish with one final thought – when you have faced your fears, then what happens?