Does your mind wander when you are listening to others?


wow what a great night we had on 9th December with about 30 plus businesses networking.

We had speed networking, raffle prizes and a bit of party fun. Along with many people I wanted to thank. I am not sure I expressed clearly enough how grateful I have been to those that had taken the time last year to listen to me and help me get my thoughts clear.

One of the games we played was Dirty Minds that showed that when you ask a leading question people’s minds to wander. Although on the whole they kept it quite clean lol!. It was interesting to see how many different responses people had before we got the right answer.

One description was this:

I am hot wet and steamy

After I finish I still drip a little

After you have been inside me you have to wipe yourself off.

Now I don’t where your mind went then but I can assure you the answer was very clean. The first answer was Sauna, then several other guesses and finally we got to a “shower”.

Imagine if your customer was describing what they wanted and you started to sell them a sauna and what they wanted was a shower. How bad for business would that be?

The truth is that due to the pace of life many people are in a hurry to finish conversations and move on to the next task. People are often making assumptions and not asking enough questions.

That is why communications are key to any business. Clean Language questions are a powerful resource to ensure that you fully understand the people you are communicating with.

What price is your business paying right now for not listening?

What needs to happen for your to listen more effectively?

Remember we are only human and we always respond to information presented to us based on our life experiences and so it is natural we will have discrepancies. The damage comes from acting on an assumption  checking it out. If we ask more questions and the “right” questions we can avoid that.

Thanks for listening



About Step by Step Listening

I am the founder of Step by Step Listening and we started as a company that eradicated fear of failure and guilt for mums, we coached mums and daughters, we then worked with sole trader and small business owners and over the years we developed a unique ability to help people create the family or business they desire by being able to tap into the resource of being able to sell ideas/prodcuts/visions/services in a way that feels right and gets results. For some they are learning to sell and idea to themselves perhaps a dream or an ambition they have had for years, for others it could be selling responsibility and independence to a teenager or perhaps selling a vision or a change of structure to a team. What ever it is we use unique a unique facilitation and group process to help you discover when you are selling in a way that feels right that's like what?
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2 Responses to Does your mind wander when you are listening to others?

  1. Hi Sheryl,

    I had a thoroughly great time at your party. It was great fun spending time with a group of great people at a party celebrating the great business of a great friend.

    Is that enough ‘greats’ for one comment?

    I wonder how many people will be there next year?

    Kindest regards,

    Steve B

    • sbs3 says:

      HI Steve

      setting some time aside to learn more about blogging and realised that I had not been polite and interacted with the comments so catching up now. and how spooky to read the line how many will be there next year. You see having just celebrated with tasty marketing their 3rd birthday in the VIP lounge at the Business South I decided that this year I would have to up the anti so lets say last year was 30 and this year I would like to have 100.

      thanks for the question

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