- Do you know anyone that pushes your emotional buttons?
- Have you ever been thrown completely off track by someone else’s comment?
- Have you ever had to listen to something you were really not ready to hear?
Well I used to have many moments like that. I had another close shave this week.
Despite the fact that business is going well, we are enjoying the journey, workshops are filling up, regular bookings are being made and we are very excited at the prospect of working with our local senior school. I had a moment where I almost wobbled, almost got thrown off track. But I remembered the self imposed rules I made myself:
- Take a deep breath,
- Don’t try and defend myself but listen and ask more questions.
- Then ask myself the question what would I like to have happen?
You see a very good friend told me this week that my emails were too long and even face to face I waffle in the same way. I followed the response above and then when alone considered the question what would I like to have happen?
Answer: I want to communicate in a way others like to receive it.
There was a Simpson dope!! moment when I realised that my mentor has told me this same advice more than once, the fact I started the email with “sorry this email is so long” was evidence I knew the fact.
So what do I know now?
- I get that I do it, it is a fact it is true, I am a long winded communicator
- I get why I do it, because I am very enthusiastic.
- I get that I don’t like the reaction I get.
- I get that I can’t change others reaction but I can change the length of my communication. Yes every form of communication that comes from me in the most is too long.emails; blogs; conversations; sales pitch; chats; etc.
So the question to ask myself next is:
What needs to happen to make that happen?
Well I have decided to set myself a goal of a maximum of 500 words for a blog and 200 for an email, maybe a time limit when talking?
How long is long enough for you?
When do you switch off or give up trying to read or listen?
What do you know now as a result of reading this blog? Which is under 500 words (427 to be precise) by the way
Thank you for listening