Are teenagers more honest when they communicate?

I wanted to share with you a thought from a good friend. Helen Battersby a highly regarded Executive and Team building coach, who is known for her compassion and understanding of people. Helen has the ability to bring the good out in people and teams. Helen has a genuine and honest approach which is why it is of no surprise to find she is a talented writer too.

Helen earlier this year decided to start to write down her reflections. This piece resonated with me because as you know I show people how to empty their minds and really listen. Teenagers are often accused of not listening however I would ask who were their role models who taught them how to not listen in the first place ?

Here is one of Helen’s reflections if you would like to read more of them please contact her via her website Good to Great Coaching

Thursday 20th May 2010



Driving home late I spied three teenagers standing in triangular format facing the centre but each on his/her mobile phone in the semi-light of a lamp post. The scene reminded me of a live-art sculpture- slightly unreal and I laughed inwardly at the irony of the scene- together but overtly elsewhere. 

Then I was struck by how we can often be absent ourselves from conversations by going elsewhere in our heads rather than being truly present with the person physically with us. 

In fact the teenagers with the mobiles seem more honest- at least they’re not pretending to be doing anything else.

Thank you Helen for noticing this and putting it so poetically.

Are you really present when listening to the people who matter to you?

Or perhaps like the teenagers you are so obviously elsewhere.

Sadly unlike the teenagers us adults we rarely have the consent of those around us to be absent it is deemed rude and unacceptable and yet we do it.

Have you ever gone out for dinner with a friend then proceeded to text someone else?

Have you ever been in the middle of a conversation with your children when you answered your mobile phone?

 How often in a week do you give someone, anyone  your attention 100% no phones, no laptop?

Who gets you at your best work or  family?

Now that you know that what would you like to have happen? 

Thanks  again Helen for the inspiration to write this

Thanks for listening your thoughts and comments are always appreciated. 



About Step by Step Listening

I am the founder of Step by Step Listening and we started as a company that eradicated fear of failure and guilt for mums, we coached mums and daughters, we then worked with sole trader and small business owners and over the years we developed a unique ability to help people create the family or business they desire by being able to tap into the resource of being able to sell ideas/prodcuts/visions/services in a way that feels right and gets results. For some they are learning to sell and idea to themselves perhaps a dream or an ambition they have had for years, for others it could be selling responsibility and independence to a teenager or perhaps selling a vision or a change of structure to a team. What ever it is we use unique a unique facilitation and group process to help you discover when you are selling in a way that feels right that's like what?
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