I wanted to share with you a thought from a good friend. Helen Battersby a highly regarded Executive and Team building coach, who is known for her compassion and understanding of people. Helen has the ability to bring the good out in people and teams. Helen has a genuine and honest approach which is why it is of no surprise to find she is a talented writer too.
Helen earlier this year decided to start to write down her reflections. This piece resonated with me because as you know I show people how to empty their minds and really listen. Teenagers are often accused of not listening however I would ask who were their role models who taught them how to not listen in the first place ?
Here is one of Helen’s reflections if you would like to read more of them please contact her via her website Good to Great Coaching
Thursday 20th May 2010
Driving home late I spied three teenagers standing in triangular format facing the centre but each on his/her mobile phone in the semi-light of a lamp post. The scene reminded me of a live-art sculpture- slightly unreal and I laughed inwardly at the irony of the scene- together but overtly elsewhere.
Then I was struck by how we can often be absent ourselves from conversations by going elsewhere in our heads rather than being truly present with the person physically with us.
In fact the teenagers with the mobiles seem more honest- at least they’re not pretending to be doing anything else.
Thank you Helen for noticing this and putting it so poetically.
Are you really present when listening to the people who matter to you?
Or perhaps like the teenagers you are so obviously elsewhere.
Sadly unlike the teenagers us adults we rarely have the consent of those around us to be absent it is deemed rude and unacceptable and yet we do it.
Have you ever gone out for dinner with a friend then proceeded to text someone else?
Have you ever been in the middle of a conversation with your children when you answered your mobile phone?
How often in a week do you give someone, anyone your attention 100% no phones, no laptop?
Who gets you at your best work or family?
Now that you know that what would you like to have happen?
Thanks again Helen for the inspiration to write this
Thanks for listening your thoughts and comments are always appreciated.